Comments on: I know, I know. http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/ kristenrudd.com Thu, 09 Sep 2010 23:36:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: lauren http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/comment-page-1/#comment-4451 lauren Sun, 08 Apr 2007 06:17:19 +0000 http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/#comment-4451 a word on doing non-kid stuff e.g. reading the news, photos, etc. that is awesome! i think that you doing what makes you happy and feeds your soul will translate into you being a better mother and you won't go crazy and resent them that way. my mom worked and read and i was young, went back to school when i was in middle school to become a midwife, and volunteered at a clinic additionally when i was in high school, and i was always extremely proud of her (even if i missed her). judah and killian will be proud that they have a mom who's up on what's going on in the world, keeping up with friends, laughing, and creating great art. wish i was there to babysit! may be up there the weekend of the 20th (april)... a word on doing non-kid stuff e.g. reading the news, photos, etc. that is awesome! i think that you doing what makes you happy and feeds your soul will translate into you being a better mother and you won’t go crazy and resent them that way. my mom worked and read and i was young, went back to school when i was in middle school to become a midwife, and volunteered at a clinic additionally when i was in high school, and i was always extremely proud of her (even if i missed her). judah and killian will be proud that they have a mom who’s up on what’s going on in the world, keeping up with friends, laughing, and creating great art.

wish i was there to babysit! may be up there the weekend of the 20th (april)…

]]> By: ann http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/comment-page-1/#comment-4447 ann Mon, 02 Apr 2007 16:56:27 +0000 http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/#comment-4447 I love you. You're gonna make it through this rough period. I love you. You’re gonna make it through this rough period.

]]> By: Cynthia http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/comment-page-1/#comment-4446 Cynthia Mon, 02 Apr 2007 00:45:14 +0000 http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/#comment-4446 You know, I can't remember my mom when I was really little either. Actually, I can't remember a lot. I remember when I was a little older, and her working. The thing is, she's still around, and she says when we were little she spent a lot of time just playing with us. But I don't remember that. And I feel guilty, too, because when I get home from work and on the weekends, I don't want to do just kid things- want to read a book or get online or something. So I totally get the guilt thing. I'm making an effort to spend some real quality time with the kids- and then not feel bad about taking time for myself. (I'm not very good at this yet.) I always think it would be different if I were home full time- but who knows? You know, I can’t remember my mom when I was really little either. Actually, I can’t remember a lot. I remember when I was a little older, and her working. The thing is, she’s still around, and she says when we were little she spent a lot of time just playing with us. But I don’t remember that. And I feel guilty, too, because when I get home from work and on the weekends, I don’t want to do just kid things- want to read a book or get online or something. So I totally get the guilt thing. I’m making an effort to spend some real quality time with the kids- and then not feel bad about taking time for myself. (I’m not very good at this yet.) I always think it would be different if I were home full time- but who knows?

]]> By: Jill http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/comment-page-1/#comment-4444 Jill Fri, 30 Mar 2007 15:15:56 +0000 http://kristenrudd.com/blog/2007/03/29/i-know-i-know/#comment-4444 If you can, just try to remember that life does go on and deep down, you want for others to be happy (even if that means re-marriage). It isn't like I don't know where you're coming from, I've basically never had a father (don't remember him much at all, he died when I was eight), but even with my mother's recent death, I find myself really at peace with it and not struggling or mourning anymore (and it has only been 9 months!). With a baby on the way, I couldn't be happier about that, and that's a weird thing to say. I really believe you CAN make this easier for yourself and not have this hurt so much every year... You're getting there. And I think your mother would appreciate being remembered as a normal "person" much more than anything else. Faults and all. In fact, the faults are some of the best memories I have of both my parents, and the funniest family memories Brent and I have hinge on them (but we're sick like that.) If you can, just try to remember that life does go on and deep down, you want for others to be happy (even if that means re-marriage). It isn’t like I don’t know where you’re coming from, I’ve basically never had a father (don’t remember him much at all, he died when I was eight), but even with my mother’s recent death, I find myself really at peace with it and not struggling or mourning anymore (and it has only been 9 months!). With a baby on the way, I couldn’t be happier about that, and that’s a weird thing to say. I really believe you CAN make this easier for yourself and not have this hurt so much every year… You’re getting there. And I think your mother would appreciate being remembered as a normal “person” much more than anything else. Faults and all. In fact, the faults are some of the best memories I have of both my parents, and the funniest family memories Brent and I have hinge on them (but we’re sick like that.)

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