i’m a little bit flabbergasted. i have this friend who is a pathological liar and continuously lies to everyone she knows, including myself. and it’s not about small stuff either — it’s about things like her age, where she was born, what her dad does for a living, where she grew up, how she knows people, whether she’s pregnant or has certain conditions and diseases, her accent… the list goes on. it always blows up in her face, yet she continues to pereptuate lies even after she’s been caught. or she’ll begin to lie about something else. she will make up complete histories of lies to satisfy all the questions you could ask about her experiences. and if you think about it really hard, things don’t add up. so when you ask her, to try to make it make sense, she explains it away in such a way that it satisfies your face answers, but at the same time leaves you more confused so you don’t even know what to ask.
she’s decided to continue down this path of lies and it’s going to get her in trouble. more trouble than she’s in now — i’m talking the kind of trouble that is going to get her killed. and the worst part is — she doesn’t even see it. she won’t return my calls. mostly because she knows i know about her most recent lies. i told her so in my last message. it hurt to leave that message, because i’m at the point where i can’t continue to try to help her — not because I don’t want to, but because she doesn’t want to be helped. i’m not giving up on her, but i’m making her make the choice to choose good things or not. i told her voice mail that this would be the last time I called her unless i heard back from her, that I couldn’t continue to chase after her if she doesn’t want the relationship. it really hurt to say that, but I had to. and THAT really hurt as well. i told her she was worth a lot more than what she’s throwing her life away for right now. and that i loved her and hoped she would call me.
i have this feeling i’m never going to hear from her again.
I’ve never heard about anyone going through anything similar to what we went through six months ago until I read this post. Wow. The hardest part for me was when our friend started going to counciling and started saying things like, “I’m not making excuses but” or “I can only talk about this in light of what I’m learning about my condition”. How do you respond to that? Especially when all you want is for her to admit that she lied to you and hurt you, with no “but”s. Its a hard place to be. Hope to hear from you soon - Greg